How I Lost 16 Pounds

“How hard can it be to lose five pounds?”

That’s how it started.

For a very long time, I never gave much thought to managing my weight. Bit by bit over the years there was more of me, but I gained weight so gradually, and I carried it well enough, that it rarely bothered me how the pounds were adding up (although I didn’t like that my older clothes stopped fitting after a while). This spring though, I stopped liking what I saw in the mirror. I din’t like it one bit, in fact.

So right after I got back from visiting NY for Passover in April, I decided it was finally time to make some changes.

I don’t want to call it a diet. I’m skeptical of the entire concept, frankly. Especially the big branded ones. Too many of them seem designed to part the dieter with their cash (books, special food, memberships, supplements, and more) than with their extra weight. There’s too much junk science and too many claims I find hard to believe. And too many dieters seem to gain all the weight back once they end the diet. I wanted to do something a little more sustainable.

Instead, I based my plan on two guiding principles:

1) Don’t make sacrifices that you can’t live with over the long haul.
Example: I refuse to give up putting sugar in my coffee. I hate the taste of all the sugar substitutes, and I don’t see the point of putting a bunch of chemicals into your body that trick you into thinking you just ate something sweet. Might as well just make room for the calories and have the real thing.

2) Simple is always better.
I found a great Android app that made tracking my food intake and exercise simple: Noom. What I most like about it is that it tracks your intake in a way that works both at home and while eating out, and doesn’t take a lot of time. For example, if I have a salad for lunch, Noom doesn’t ask me to enter each type of vegetable separately or figure out how many ounces of chicken I put on top. I’d record it as “heaping handful of vegetables, half a handful of chicken, tablespoon of salad dressing”. Done. Yes, it’s not pinpoint accurate, but it’s close enough. And it worked.

So how did I lose the weight? I tracked everything I ate and kept to the daily calorie allocation Noom assigned me.

How? I dropped a lot of the carbs from my diet (although not all) and became much more aware of portion sizes. I ate a lot more beans and salad, and cut down the snacks and sweets. And on the days when I said “the hell with it” and ate steak frites for lunch because I couldn’t bear to eat another salad, I didn’t beat myself up or feel like a failure. I just started again the next day back on the plan.

And it worked. Four months later, I am 16 pounds lighter. That’s roughly a pound a week lost, and I did it during a time period when I took 2 vacations (including a cruise with a LOT of good food and wine). My BMI is nicely in the normal range for my height now, and I’ve lost a full dress size. I was afraid losing weight was going to be a titanic struggle, but aside from the occasional pasta craving, it wasn’t as bad as I expected. And once the scale started showing real results, sticking with the plan got even easier, because I knew it was working.

Oh yeah and that report about women needing to work out at least an hour a day to avoid gaining weight? It’s crap, at least for me. I exercised three times a week in May and June, but I’ve slacked off the exercise more recently (ok, I admit it, I haven’t worked out since mid-July). And I still lost weight in that time.

Maybe I got lucky? I don’t know. I do know lots of people struggle greatly with their weight and that my experience isn’t universal. Still, what I did worked for me, and that’s what matters.

To sum it all up: I lost a bunch of weight. It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. And now I need to buy some pants that fit. 🙂

Radio Silence

This is the longest amount of time I’ve gone without posting to my personal blog since I first put it online.

It would be easy to blame “social media,” or Google+, or simply having too much stuff to do. That would be the easy way out. The simple truth is, I think about blogging a lot; I just don’t actually open up a screen and do it. Part of the problem is that I mostly think about blogging while in the car, and then when I get to wherever I am going, I promptly neglect to actually blog about whatever I’ve been thinking about.

And there’s a lot that’s gone on in the past few months. I’ve taken two great personal trips, lost 10 pounds, and (most recently) attended another fantastic Community Leadership Summit. Plus the usual raft of stuff at work. I’ve been meaning to blog about most of those things and I hope to do so in the upcoming weeks. Let’s see if I actually do.

I Have No Green Thumb


I haven’t anything resembling a green thumb. Luckily, the roses on our patio seem to thrive on neglect and are blooming despite my inattention.

On a related note, I’m thinking about getting a monitor or possibly also a Mac Mini for photo editing at home. I love my laptop but a 13″ screen doesn’t do Lightroom justice.

Osama Bin Laden – Dead

rot in hell Osama
New York Times, May 2, 2011

I have deep, mixed emotions tonight. The torah tells us that we should not rejoice at the death of our enemies, but I cannot help being happy that this man who brought death and misery to so many, is finally dead.

It won’t bring back Kath or any of the others that Al Qaeda has killed over the years. It won’t bring the World Trade Center back. And it won’t stop terrorism.

But still, I wish so badly that I were in NYC tonight so that I could celebrate.

Laughter in the Middle of Sorrow

Not entirely unexpected given my recent blog post, but Johannes Somary did not overcome the stroke that felled him in late December, and I juggled my travel plans to be at his funeral this past weekend.

As a final gift to the many people who loved him, Johannes carefully planned out his funeral, and left detailed instructions for the event. A central point was the musical program, of course.

The music was a mix of plainchant, a couple of his own compositions, and selections from the Fauré Requiem, all ably sung by members of his Amor Artis Chorus. More than ably. I am not sure I’ll ever be able to listen to “In Paradisum” again without crying after hearing the amazing power of it sung live, with such love.

Amidst the great sadness there was laughter too. Anyone who’s ever sung with Johannes will remember Tye’s “Laudate Nomen Domini“. Although it wasn’t on the funeral program, right after the communion section, it rang out through the church, an unauthorized addition to the day. I had to bite my lips to keep from laughing and then to keep from signing along. 🙂 Call it the choir’s last gift to Johannes. I’m sure he would have approved.

I should write more about Johannes, but so many other people have said so much about him over on his CaringBridge site I feel like there’s nothing new left to say. I’ll hold him in my heart always though.

About Love and Excellence

Riverside Church, NYC May 2002

I had a different blog post in mind for this weekend. I was going to write about the iPad & my experiences with it these past few weeks. Yawn.

Instead I want to write about someone who’s lying in a hospital bed tonight, but who is surrounded and hopefully lifted up by the love and prayers of not only his family, but hundreds of members of his extended family.

I spent 5 years singing in a choir led by Johannes Somary and they were some of the happiest times of my life. He seemed to me more like a force of nature than an actual human being at times, so strong was his personality. You always wanted to do your very best for Johannes, because that was what he expected. And he got it.

But what you got out of the work you put in for Johannes was so much more.

I learned not just to love choral music in my years with Johannes, but also about passion, and commitment, and about excellence. And also about leadership, although back then that wasn’t really on my mind.

My thoughts tonight are with him and his family, and hoping that although he is beginning 2011 in a very dark place, that the rest of 2011 will be a much better one for him, because the world without Johannes would be a dimmer, less musical place.